Truth and Protection
I had a rather deep conversation with my colleagues and friends today about speaking your truth and the things we do to protect ourselves.
Most of the time the things we do to avoid tough conversations ends up being the most toxic action we could take. If we just don't want to talk about something and we shut people out we can damage relationships without realizing. If we want to distract ourselves with food and television instead of truly seeking the real traumas we have then often times we can get into an unhealthy cycle that is hard to break. If we allow negativity to take up our head space then often times we deny ourselves positive things in fear that they might turn negative again. If we have something on our mind and it grows then usually the problem grows with it.
Speaking your truth though is a vulnerable action. Opens ourselves to conflict, severed relationships, vulnerability, and the real reality that we might actually have to examine ourselves. Not externally blame others for our plights, but truly examine what we truly need, want, and how we can grow. No doubt it is a vulnerable thing. No doubt it is hard.
But there is also another part of it that should never be doubted... and it is this... speaking your truth will always teach you lessons. Someone stating what they need teaches me to be mindful of certain things or realize patterns that maybe I overlooked. Someone stating their truth allows for solutions in either their needs being met or realizing certain relationships are not worth having.
We all live in closets to some degree. We tell ourselves its because we are private or we are just dealing with it, but the truth is we are delaying what we know we must do. Be brave enough to ask for help, to say what we need, or to really examine the parts of ourselves we try to avoid.
I am thankful to the people around me who remind me that authenticity and positive relationship building makes me a better person.
Speak your truth. Ask for what you need. Trust yourself. Make sure you are a positive force in someone's life rather than a drain. Be intentional.
Most of the time the things we do to avoid tough conversations ends up being the most toxic action we could take. If we just don't want to talk about something and we shut people out we can damage relationships without realizing. If we want to distract ourselves with food and television instead of truly seeking the real traumas we have then often times we can get into an unhealthy cycle that is hard to break. If we allow negativity to take up our head space then often times we deny ourselves positive things in fear that they might turn negative again. If we have something on our mind and it grows then usually the problem grows with it.
Speaking your truth though is a vulnerable action. Opens ourselves to conflict, severed relationships, vulnerability, and the real reality that we might actually have to examine ourselves. Not externally blame others for our plights, but truly examine what we truly need, want, and how we can grow. No doubt it is a vulnerable thing. No doubt it is hard.
But there is also another part of it that should never be doubted... and it is this... speaking your truth will always teach you lessons. Someone stating what they need teaches me to be mindful of certain things or realize patterns that maybe I overlooked. Someone stating their truth allows for solutions in either their needs being met or realizing certain relationships are not worth having.
We all live in closets to some degree. We tell ourselves its because we are private or we are just dealing with it, but the truth is we are delaying what we know we must do. Be brave enough to ask for help, to say what we need, or to really examine the parts of ourselves we try to avoid.
I am thankful to the people around me who remind me that authenticity and positive relationship building makes me a better person.
Speak your truth. Ask for what you need. Trust yourself. Make sure you are a positive force in someone's life rather than a drain. Be intentional.
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