Mindfulness

Having goals are important. In fact, I'm not sure I have existed without having a goal in mind.  As a young child my goal was to make everything fun and create the most creative games I could think of. Of course the adults in my life had other goals for me, but seriously when you can turn your science homework into a box... you have to feel somewhat accomplished regardless of the loss of points.  In middle school, my goal was simply to survive. Important goal albeit a bit sad.  In high school, my goal was to learn to be a student. I lost those skills when I was busy creating the wonderful games and fun. Turns out I did care about grades and my future, but now the future was immediate and I figure I better get to the things the adults in my life were yelling at me about.  In college, my goal was to follow my passions and explore my options. I wanted to do things my way. My goal was also to study abroad, because I wanted to experience what it was like to ...

The last few weeks I have been thinking a lot about needs. Everyone has them. These are things that we require in order to feel normal or to feel healthy within ourselves. Some people have external needs and others have internal needs. Take me for example. There are really two needs I have in order to feel healthy and to feel secure in any kind of relationship. First Need: I need to know that people believe in me.  I want the people I care about to believe in my intelligence, believe in my ability to problem solve, believe in my ability to grow, and maintain the  belief that I am not some unchangeable box of a person who can never progress. I want people who help me believe that I have no limits, because I overthink and worry that people doubt my abilities. I have never been a fan of people telling me who I am, what I should want, what I need to do, or telling me that I can't do something. Voicing concerns, slowing down my thought process, and being honest about any challe...