Mindfulness

The biggest difference between those who are mature and those who are immature are the elements of self-responsibility and accepting self-agency. We cannot change the actions of others, we cannot change the way people think, we cannot control aspects of life beyond our control, but we can make sure we take care of ourselves. If you put your happiness in the hands of anyone else you will be disappointed. Not necessarily because you will not find good friends or good significant others, but because people are human and busy themselves. Life happens. If I do not communicate my needs and expect people to know what to do then is it my fault that I am not happy or the people in my life? I would say, it would be mine. In High School, I blamed a lot of people for my unhappiness. I blamed my classmates, I blamed my teachers, and I blamed society as well. I was angry. I knew what I wanted and it just seemed like everyone had something to say about it. Truth is though I was just a stubborn ki...

This post might be inspired by Buzzfeed Unsolved or by my Nocturnal Journal which asked me this morning to think of things that still haunt me. We all have ghosts that haunt us or baggage that we carry. Those negative things define us more than I think we are conscious of. All the little things and the big things add up to be the fears we hold, the caution we exercise, and even the vulnerabilities we wish to hide from people. I have not met a single soul that does not have something lurking. I definitely have my ghosts and I am not going to flesh it out online. That is far too personal. But I do, especially about some of the things I did when I was younger, because I was trying to be cool. Or not acknowledging toxic situations, because I was scared of losing friends. Or not saying I cared for someone deeply, because I was scared of getting hurt. All those 'what if' situations that not only cross your mind, but they also change the trajectory of your life sometimes. I am rea...